Things you can and can’t change in someone. Of course, you can’t change how an individual looks, as far as physical features. If you are uncomfortable with their size, then call it quits immediately, because that is very inappropriate etiquette. You may be able to persuade a female to change the way she wears her make up, or the amount. Men and women alike, can ask their partner to change their hair, either the way they wear it, the length or even the color. If your person of interest has a drug or alcohol problem, it may be wise to walk away sooner than later. While people with such habits can get treatment, they may choose not too, and you are not likely going to make them. They probably feel like,’I was this way when you met me? so, why should I change?
You may change the places they frequently go, maybe start going to new places, just the two of you. If done in the proper manner you may be able to change the way someone dresses or the perfume or cologne they wear, but if it is a life trait, it is not likely you will make them into someone they are not. There is the expression: ‘You can’t teach a old dog new dogs new tricks.’ That saying came into being for a reason. Once most people are set in their ways, you can’t change them. So, if you are seeing a person you think is great, except they have a bad temper, then don’t bank on cooling their hot head, because it is not likely to happen. It is wisest to learn to love it, or let them go. We are who we are for a reason, and the way I feel, is if you can’t love me for me, and love all of me, just like I am, you might as well hit the highway, because chances are, it is not going to work out, because you are going to exhaust all of your energy trying to change me, instead of building a good life together.
Why He didn’t Call You after Your First Date
You meet a nice man on a online dating site. He seems really sweet, you talk on several different occasions over the phone, as well as online. He finally asks you out, you are very excited. You meet, and embrace, let each other know it is nice to finally meet in person. There is a physical attraction, on both sides. Smiles on both of your faces, you go inside a fancy restaurant, hoping for a nice evening. He is a doll, you are just in awe. He pulls the chair out for you, and tells you to order whatever you like, so you do. You order the lobster and steak dinner, and a margarita on the side. He is okay with that, although, you might have chosen to be a little more modest in your decision, so you don’t empty his entire wallet, but he doesn’t seem to mind. You are having a good conversation, eating, and talking, unfortunately with your mouth open. Your date is still trying to make the best of the date, watching you enjoy yourself, a little too much. You have now drank your third cocktail, and are starting to really loosen up. You excuse yourself to go talk to a couple guys at the next table, your date looked at you as if to say, “really?” He was still a gentleman, and let you have your space. So, you finally come back to the table and sit with your date, mostly because your glass is empty. You ask for another, but your date states that is not a good idea, you are going home now. You get pissed and get loud, and cause a big scene, and everyone is starring. You finally calm down, and go home with your date. You thank him, kiss him good night, and hope to hear from him tomorrow. When he doesn’t call you, you wonder why not? You thought it was a really good time? Really? First of all, you have horrible sense of respect, by ordering the most expensive item on the menu. You have bad table manners. Not to mention, you have made a complete idiot of yourself, by going to another table with men, and drinking way too much for a getting acquainted date, or any date, for that matter. You are lucky he didn’t leave you there to call a friend or a cab.
Tell Tale Signs Your Date is Not the One
A sure way to know someone is not ‘The One’, is if you are not totally excited every time you hear their voice, or when you go to see them. You should be nervous, happy and all bubbly inside, and want to spend every moment with this person, even if you can’t. If you do not have anything in common with the person you have fallen for, this is probably not a ‘Match Made in Heaven.’ They will want to do things, you may hate, and you may want to do things they hate, and if there is no common ground to base your relationship on, then it is not going to work either. When you go out to dinner, if your date is starring off into space, or spending more time flirting and having conversation with the waitress/ waiter, then you should probably get up now, and walk away, and save yourself a big heartache. If you are constantly fighting or arguing over silly stuff, then they are likely, not for you either. If you find out your, “One and Only” does not class you the same, then it is defiantly time to end this relationship. Also, if they claim you are the “Apple of Their Eye”, and you find them sneaking around, or things just don’t seem quite right, they probably aren’t, so Run! We often don’t give our instincts enough credit. Almost 90% of the time, that bad feeling, is dead on the money. Its sad, but true.